Sometimes you may feel that you have tried everything you know and everything other people have suggested, and nothing has worked, and now you are at your wit’s end and don’t know how to deal with it. Sometimes you may do things that you later regret, e.g., shout at them; call them names; insult them; tell them how bad they are; use sarcasm, grab them or physically restrain them or maybe even hit them. You know that none of these things will work or make things more beneficial, but it is an obvious reaction to your emotions of weakness and failure.
These days everyone feels they have to be perfect, and if they make mistakes, they are often afraid to ask for support because they believe that everyone else is doing a better job and will judge them for their mistakes. Sometimes parents also fail to understand their child’s behavior and start avoiding them. If someone recommends a parent may need support, the advice that parent often hears is criticism of their capability to love, manage, care for and discipline their children. This can make them feel irritable and resistant to use the support that is offered.
We would like you to consider this…
A good parent is prepared to seek help and assistance because they want the best for their children. They take behaviour support, Adelaide to treat their children effectively.
Many parents suffer from low self-esteem brought on by the stresses of modern living, family life, and relationships. With this low self-esteem, they gradually find that the balance of power in their households has gradually shifted towards the children, who get more and more of their way because it seems easier than the battles that ensue when they don’t.
Firstly you need to work on yourself and your low self-esteem. You need to believe that what you are facing on a day-to-day basis really can be changed and that you are the one that has the power to change it. Once you believe in yourself, you need to understand the psychology of what is going on when your children behave badly. You would probably assume that they would dislike being told off, shouted at, smacked, etc., so much that when your stress levels tip you over the edge into these kinds of reactions, they would respond by doing as you wish to stop your reaction. Sometimes, they do stop reacting to situations when they see your extreme reaction.
TIPS TO MAKE POSITIVE CHANGES TO YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR
# Remember how much you loved your children when they were born. Remember that your ultimate aim is to have a happy, contented relationship with them to spend time together and enjoy each other’s company.
You may feel that your children aren’t interested in spending time with you, you may think they are only interested in their computer games, friends, their toys, TV programs, the list goes on…There are two ways of tackling this, join them for a time at something they like doing and engage in conversation during the activity or invite them to do something with you, bake a cake, paint a pottery item, play a game, read a book, write a letter, paint a room, go for a walk, go swimming, go for a bike ride…If you have more than one child, try to give each some individual time and time together. One day they will be grown up, it comes quicker than you think, and you want to have these happy memories of times spent together.
# Understand your kids needs; while you should not spoil your children by giving them everything they ask for, it is your responsibility as their parent to provide for their needs:-
Physical needs include:-
• air to breathe,
• nutritious food,
• sufficient sleep,
• stimulation our senses,
• exercise our muscles,
• sufficient and secure shelter.